Over 80% of teens say they would confide in a friend before going to an adult if they were experiencing or witnessing victimization.
We’re here to help you navigate that.
If your friend is experiencing violence, they may not want to leave the relationship. Even after recognizing it’s abusive, they may blame themselves for the harm, or may leave the relationship and return to the relationship many times.
Remember that your friend will only turn to you for support if they know that they can trust you.
Building that trust depends on supporting and empowering them to make their own decisions.
Know someone who’s experiencing dating abuse, sexual violence, or domestic violence? Unsure how to help a friend or acquaintance?
Text or call us at 1.888.606.4683 or use the web chat at the bottom of this page—we’ll give you support and tips for responding effectively.
Encourage help-seeking and support
Say:
“Thank you for sharing with me.”
“I believe you.”
“I’m sorry you’re going through this.”
“It’s not your fault.”
“I am here for you and always ready to listen.”
“I will support you no matter what you decide to do.”
“It takes a lot of courage to talk about this.”
“Do you want information on free and confidential help?”
Don’t say:
“You should just leave.”
“You need to stand up for yourself.”
“How could you let them treat you that way?”
“What did you do to make them so angry?”
“Why haven’t you broken up with them yet?”
“I warned you.”
“Why didn’t you just fight back?”
“Everything happens for a reason.”
“It could be worse.”
How to become a more informed friend, peer, family member, or trusted adult ally:
